Everyone goes through tough times, and no matter how long we’ve had something on our mind; whether it’s just for a few minutes a few hours or even months at a time, it’s important that we talk to someone about it. We don’t have to face our obstacles alone. It can be hard to talk to people about how we feel. Some people are good at talking, and do it a lot. Some people don’t like to talk much, but talking can be beneficial for everyone. It’s worth making an effort to talk through what’s going on in our lives with someone we trust. It can be hard to talk to people about how we feel. We may be worried that they won’t take our mindsets or feelings seriously. We may also be worried about what will happen after we share our troubles.
There will always be problems in our lives, but sometimes we don’t have the capacity to handle them all by ourselves. Getting a “birds eye view” is unthinkable when all we can see is what’s in front of us. Talking with another person can give us that alternative viewpoint. We can begin to minimize our problems by discussing them with those we trust. We’ll be amazed at how much weight will be lifted off of our shoulders by giving our pain a voice, and letting someone listen. It can help us feel good when someone lends us an ear, but on the other hand, if we’re struggling with our personal or professional problems, they can be a burden on our relationships, especially if we refuse to talk about it. Taking to someone helps us sort through our thoughts and clarify whatever is going on. Once we’ve had to say it out loud, it gets easier to get hold of. If we just worry about our problems without talking to someone about them, they’ll probably start to seem bigger than they are. Talking will cut them down to size. If we don’t talk about our problems, we may find our pent-up tensions or feelings burst out in a way that is inappropriate. Keeping our pain inside will eventually lead to some kind of meltdown.
Deciding who to talk to is an important first step. It’s important that we can trust the person we decide to share with. Talking to someone we trust about something upsetting may help us to sort through the problem or to see the situation more clearly, allowing us to look at the problem in a new or different way and relieve built-up tension. We’ll also find out that we’re not alone. Most of the time we’ll discover that there are a number of people that share our feelings and have identified options or solutions that maybe we hadn’t thought of. We may find that brainstorming with another person or even a group will help us find new ideas and coping mechanisms to help us keep pushing forward. When we know someone has our back, that support can mean all the difference. That’s also how therapy works. We may feel compelled to talk with a friend, an elder, or a family member. When someone loves us, they’ll help us deal with our dilemmas. However depending on our situation, we might also want to speak with a certified professional like a therapist, counselor, or a life coach. A huge benefit of talking or going to therapy is that the effects can be long lasting. This is because we’re not only working through our issues, but we’re also learning and developing tools to help us deal with our future problems.
The problem with problems is that they don’t come one at a time, they generally “pop-up” in bunches. When we take care of one, another “pops up” and fills its space, combine financial worries, the issues that come with any normal relationship, plus the unexpected upsets that bombard us daily, it’s reasonable that there are times in our lives when our mood is stained with shades of blue and grey. Most of us accept the idea that expressing our emotion is good for our emotional health. What we do with strong emotions affects not only our emotional health, but also our physical health as well. Actively holding back our emotions is hard work and taxes our body’s defenses. This may negatively affect the functioning of the immune system, the heart and vascular systems, and even the brain and nervous systems. Creating conditions for a greater risk of disease.
An awesome benefit of sharing with others is that it not only helps us understand ourselves better, but it also helps us understand other people. Talking helps us to get closer to people we care about and who care about us. The way a person feels inside is important. When we hold negative thoughts in without processing them, they become so deep-rooted that we see the world through that lens, and we make assumptions that may or may not be true. Big and small problems are going to come up from time to time, knowing how to deal with them in a healthy sharing way is an essential skill. Talking to others about the things that upset us helps us to process our emotions. As we live, learn and develop, we gain insight into our life experiences and learn more about ourselves.